Tips for newly engaged folks at the end.
My best friend in love and art proposed to me a week ago and I’m over the moon about it. It still doesn’t feel real, but it, like these beautiful diamonds on my itty bitty finger is very much real. Not too long after I started feeling anxiety about wedding planning and after getting my mental health in check I came up with 5 very helpful tips to combat anxiety and wedding planning.
After the engagement we said we wouldn’t start thinking about wedding planning until the next week. We wanted to soak up just being engaged without thinking of anything else.
I promise you, exactly one week from our engagement I woke up and all I could think about was our wedding.
How many people?
What’s the budget?
Where am I gonna get my dress?
Hunnie, no amount of wedding ideas I pinned on Pinterest prepared me for this moment I was having.
Chile, you name it? I was overthinking it and I became so anxious.I felt my heart rate going a million miles an hour and the tears started flowing. I just didn’t want to plan a wedding anymore. At that moment it felt like the wedding was the very next day and I had nothing in order.
I just stayed to myself not wanting Ty, my fiance, to know I was thinking about all of this because I wasn’t ready to talk yet.
After sitting in bed, tired of being consumed by my own thoughts, I got my journal, turned on my worship music and started writing.
The more I wrote and spoke to God the less tears fell and the clearer my mind became. I thank Jesus.
I eventually went and spoke to Ty about how I was feeling and I thank God for him. He held me the way only he knows how and spoke life into me, us and this new journey we are about to embark on. He reminded me that we are in this together as partners and friends. He also reminded me about how much fun this time is supposed to be! WE’RE ENGAGED! To be married! This fine ass man is about to be my whole husband and I his wife. This is definitely a time to be excited!
So if you’re engaged or planning on becoming engaged soon and you have anxiety about wedding planning like I do? Here are a few reminders just in case you’re like me and forgot:
Enjoy being engaged! This is supposed to be fun and yes that includes the wedding planning. You’re planning what is supposed to be one of the best days of your life don’t let societal pressures cause you to feel stress and hate during what is supposed to be a time of love and joy
You are not in this alone. Talk to your partner or someone you trust. Let them know what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling. Run ideas by them so you can hear things out loud. Weddings in all shapes and forms have been done for hundreds of years. If you’re worried about something there’s a solution somewhere out there and you don’t have to find it on your own.
This day is about you and your person! Something Ty and I always say is that all we need at the wedding is God, good food/music, people who genuinely love us as individuals and as a couple and an overflow of LOVE.
4. Don’t go into debt for one day. Listen, i feel like that says it all but let me say just a little bit more. Do not go into debt trying to impress family and friends. Don’t do it. Set a budget and stick to it. Remember that there is life to be lived after the wedding. If you’re going to go all out on something, make it the honeymoon! Don’t go into debt for that either lol but you know what I’m getting at. Spend your money on something you and your partner will both enjoy.
5. The wedding isn’t the most important thing, the marriage is. I feel like that quote has been said many times but that’s good because it’s true. I know for a fact that I want our wedding to be beautiful and true to us and our style but I also know that the wedding is only one day. I’m going to be with this person forever and that’s what I really care about. Remember why you are getting married in the first place and that will make wedding planning even more exciting.
If you found these tips for newly engaged people helpful please feel free to share this post with someone you know who is engaged or planning on being engaged one day.
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