Everybody wants to be in a relationship but are you willing to do the work to maintain a healthy one?
I’ve started to notice that people are really in love with the idea of being in a romantic relationship. They love the look, the cute photos, the baecations and some more cute photos but they don’t want to embrace the fact that it takes work to make those relationships... work.
You see it everyday on social media and in real life as well. Many people sharing stories about wanting to find their soulmate, reposting pictures of couples and saying “goals” or “I want this” but in the same breath or next tweet, will share that they aren’t willing to do simple things such as communicate their feelings or needs with a person.
Mmm, make it make sense?
A healthy, romantic, relationship is beautiful, fun and full of adventure--whatever that is for you. It’s something I believe everyone has the right to experience. However, that beauty and fun comes from doing some serious work behind the scenes, not only with your partner but with yourself. I don’t want to say that relationships are “hard work” as most people say because I don’t like to use the word ‘hard’ and it makes it sound like some random 9-5 that we don’t want to show up to. I would rather say that relationships are a part of life and much like anything in life can present moments that will challenge the both of you. And that is ok.
You are both two different people who have their own thoughts and understandings-- coming together to form a union. There will be disagreements as much as there are agreements and with that comes the moments in which you’ll both have to do and already did the necessary work to move past it.
Work in this sense could mean, working on your individual healing before getting into a relationship, making sure you aren’t bringing any baggage with you, seeing a couples therapist or a therapist of your own etc.
What I’m trying to say is that it’s ok to want a partner, to want to feel loved and give love but if the only reason why you are getting into a relationship is for ‘the look’, then take a step back and evaluate what you have to bring to the table because a cute face in a couple cute pictures aint gon cut it hunnie.
- signed,
a person with a cute face in a couple cute pictures who did the work and is always ready to continue doing the work.
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