Hi.
For most of my life I’ve dreamt about getting married--what I’d wear, where it would be...who it would be with. I know the answer to all those questions now but one question I still don’t know the answer to is “Who’s going to walk me down the aisle?
Should it be one of my two brothers? My mother? My adult nephew who I love so dearly? Who?
And then I thought, it’s not fair that I have to ask these questions. It’s not fair that I can’t go to my father, hug him, tell him how much I love him and ask if he’ll do me the honor of walking me down the aisle. Honestly, it’s not fair that I never had much of a father in the first place.
Even before my dad died I already knew he wouldn’t be walking me down the aisle because he just...wasn’t there. He was battling demons I knew nothing about and it took me years to understand that. It took me years to realize that he wasn’t a bad person and that he in fact did love me. It took me years to forgive him, but eventually, after becoming an adult and experiencing the madness of the world for myself, I did.
It still didn’t take away from the fact that I wanted that traditional experience of my father giving me away on that big day, y’know? I’ve cried about it, prayed about it, journaled about it and finally...I’m at peace with it. I know now that even though my life has been far from traditional it made me into the fierce woman I am today. And I am thankful, to be here.
To the daughters without a father to walk them down the aisle:
You could walk down the aisle alone or with 3 people escorting you and that will be ok sis. Whatever decision you make will be fine so don’t worry about what others will say it’s all about what makes you feel the most comfortable on YOUR DAY.
To the daughters without a father to walk them down the aisle:
You are about to start a new chapter with a person who loves you so much, they asked you to spend the rest of your life with them. This new chapter will be the first in a book full of wonders, healthy love and excitement. A book you’ve written a thousand times in your heart but couldn’t find the proper words to express them it.
To the daughters without a father to walk them down the aisle:
You do not lack. You are not half a woman and there is nothing wrong with you.You are blessed in abundance. You are whole.
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