Don't let comparison on Valentines Day ruin your day/life.
Whether you’re dating, married, single or swiping I want to share some encouragement with you.
So, we all know Valentine's Day is pretty much here. Let’s be honest, between all the content on social media and the decor in every other retail store we’ve known for months. With the arrival of Valentine's Day comes the exchanging of gifts. With the exchanging of gifts comes the sharing on social media of said gifts. With the sharing on social media comes... the comparisons.
Comparison comes in all different shapes and forms and can sound and look like:
“Why didn’t my person get me something like that?”
“Dang, I wanted that instead”
“I’d never get anything like that”
*Giving your person the silent treatment because they gave you something that you liked but you saw something someone else got and now you’re mad you didn’t get that instead.*
You see where I’m heading right? Comparison is one of the biggest thieves of joy! In this case, it leaves you feeling as if you and what you have are inferior to others. The love and appreciation you had for something goes away because now you want what someone else has. Comparison will never leave you content, maybe miserable and a little bitter--but definitely not content.
This Valentine's Day and everyday after that when you see someone sharing what they have, especially on social media, try to remember these things:
You don’t know how they got what they have or what they went through to get it.
Remember to practice gratitude for what you’re already blessed with.
Your time is coming. In any and everything, be patient. Your. Time. Is. Coming. Trust me.
Don’t compare your whole life to someone else's highlight reel. Read that one again.
What you have is enough and it’s important that you learn to love “enough”. If you always want what someone else has you’ll never have enough and you will never live a satisfied life.
Comparison is a natural act and can be something that is done without consciousness. I believe a solution for this is to pinpoint those moments where you are constantly comparing yourself to others-- notice the thoughts. Don’t bash yourself for doing it but simply acknowledge it and gently stop yourself. Give yourself grace, always.
So on Valentine's day and everyday after that, remember that this thing we’re doing called life? It’s a journey, not a competition. We are all on different journeys. It's never a grand idea to compare the unique beauty of your journey, to someone else's.
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